Libido mismatch — when one partner wants more sex and the other doesn't — is one of the most painful and least understood problems in long-term relationships. And most of the advice out there makes desire gaps worse.

Dr. Laura Jurgens is a multi-certified intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and former research professor who specializes in exactly this. Every episode delivers the practical, body-based tools that generic relationship advice and most couples therapy miss entirely — because desire discrepancies aren't fixed by talking more. They're fixed by working with your nervous system, your body, and the specific patterns keeping you both stuck. 

And what no one tells you is that both people have the power to make real change, because both people contribute to the dynamic.  No one is at fault — and that thinking is exactly what keeps couples stuck. 

If you're the higher-desire partner feeling rejected, lonely, or like something is wrong with you for having needs — you're not powerless, but pressuring doesn't help. If you're the lower-desire partner feeling pressured, guilty, or shut down — you're not broken or wrong either, and obligation sex is making it worse. You're both missing the same thing: a real roadmap for this specific problem.

This show covers: low libido and what actually helps · the pursue-withdraw cycle · somatic and nervous system approaches to intimacy · how to talk about sex without fighting · midlife and perimenopause changes · why therapy often fails for desire discrepancy · sexual shame and body disconnection · how ADHD affects desire in relationships · how one partner changing shifts the whole relationship.

Whether you've tried couples therapy, scheduled sex, or every book on the subject and you're still stuck — this is the podcast that goes where those solutions don't.

New episodes weekly. Start wherever you are.

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