Sex Help for Smart People
We all need help with intimacy. Join certified somatic intimacy coach, and former academic scientist, Dr. Laura Jurgens for this myth-busting, de-shaming, inclusive show. She helps you understand socialized shame and sexual repression, distills the latest research, and introduces play-based approaches to growing your capacity for intimacy. Every episode offers an experiential exercise to build skill and confidence. If you want to discover an effective, fun path to better sex and connection, this show is for you. No ads, no product placements. Just free help.
Disclosure: expect explicit content and some swearing!
Episodes
44 episodes
Strap-Ons For Every Body
Get started the fun way with strap-ons. Everyone can play with strap-ons and there are loads of reasons you may want to try it out. This episode will guide you through choices of equipment, accessories, positions. It will help you make the deci...
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Episode 44
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28:03
3 Reasons You Have a Hard Time Talking About Sex & How to Overcome Them
This episode is for all of you that have a hard time talking about sex, even with your partner. I'll cover the 3 top reasons people struggle to have conversations about sexual desires, needs, and interests. I'll also give you a place to g...
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Episode 43
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20:02
How to Be Sexual Without Accidentally Being Creepy
If you can't figure out why women seem to get turned off by you even though you're a super nice guy -- this episode is for you! We cover how to know if you’re inadvertently creeping out women or turning them off no matter how great a guy you ar...
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Episode 42
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20:04
Butt Fun: How to Start & How to Avoid Traumatic Mistakes
Today we’re talking about butt stuff – all things anal pleasure. The rear end is the other half of your pelvis and has loads of nerve endings to enjoy, but it can also be a place of shame, pain and trauma when we aren't careful. I’m going to gi...
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Episode 41
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40:41
Experiencing More Pleasure & Satisfaction (Plus How Arousal & Desire Fit In)
What is your relationship to physical pleasure? Today is all about investigating this question so you can experience more of it. We'll talk about how you can boost pleasure, dive in to how desire and arousal get confused with pleasure, and how ...
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Episode 40
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13:30
How To Start Having G-Spot & Cervical Orgasms
Do you want to have G-spot or cervical orgasms, but don't know how to get there? This episode is for you!
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Episode 39
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20:28
The Missing Part of the ED Conversation
This episode will help you understand the most common underlying causes of erectile challenges and how to solve them. While drugs can mask symptoms, they don’t actually address the underlying causes of ED. I explain the big missing piece of the...
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Episode 38
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17:37
Special Episode: Finding Calm & Helping Others When Disaster Strikes
This is a special episode, recorded at my home in Asheville, North Carolina, USA in the aftermath of massive devastation from Hurricane Helene. It is for all people dealing with difficult times. In it, I walk you through a calming exercise to h...
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Episode 37
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Up Your Foreplay Game
This episode will help you get more creative and relaxed about foreplay. We'll cover why that’s super important for keeping the fire lit in your sex life, and what some of the blocks are to good foreplay. We're also going to dive into what's up...
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Episode 36
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21:57
Your Options for Help: Coaching vs. Therapy, Plus Pros & Cons of Each
This episode covers when to see a therapist and when to seek out coaching, strengths and weaknesses of both (because all modalities have pros and cons), and what to watch out for. I'll also go over different types of therapy and different types...
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Episode 35
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37:06
What we did in sessions this week
Ever want to know what actually happens in coaching sessions? This episode is story time. I’m going to give you a peek inside my office at what we did in several different sessions this week. Through these little stories, you will get a flavor ...
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Episode 34
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14:45
Why don't they just know?
What can you do when you really want your partner to know what you want and they just don’t. You keep waiting and they keep not knowing and not doing it. You are disappointed, frustrated, or heartbroken (or all three). This is a recipe for disa...
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Episode 33
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22:12
Break Free From Arbitrary Rules: Cleaning Out Your Should Closet
This week we're diving into how "shoulds" sneak in and mess up our confidence, relationships, dating, and sex lives. Shoulds come from all kinds of places (society, religion, your grandma, that 2nd grade math teacher who said you had messy hand...
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Episode 32
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12:31
Skip The Frustration By Understanding Attachment Styles
Everyone has an attachment style. Knowing yours will enable you to manage relationships effectively as an adult, not just react at people. You'll feel much more able to communicate your needs, and much more in the driver's seat of your own expe...
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24:23
Inside a Session on Emotional Desires: Asking For What You Want Without Shame or Blame
In this special episode, I let you listen-in on a live session with client Kris (with her permission!). She and I tackle the topic of owning our own emotional desires when we’re in relationship. Think of our emotional desires just like sexual o...
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Episode 30
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47:25
Better Sleep, Better Sex
Sleeping poorly really impacts your sex life. In today's episode we're going to look at this head-on. This is a super practical episode meant to offer concrete help. I'll share effective ways to sleep better, and what is reasonable...
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Episode 29
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19:22
What Am I A "Yes" To (Even If I'm A "No" To Sex)?
It is super hard when you feel stuck in the Big No. You feel like you always have to say no to your partner. You may wish you wanted sex, but the truth is that you don't. There are loads of good reasons for that (see episodes 3 and 4 for many o...
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Episode 28
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11:48
How to Feel Better About Getting Rejected
Today is all about how to build rejection resilience. How do you deal with rejection by default? How do you feel? How do you actually want to feel? We're going to dive into how to feel better when we don’t get what we want from...
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Episode 27
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40:04
An Introduction to Sexological Bodywork: Interview with Rahi Chun
When you're struggling with your sexuality, it's important to understand the landscape of help and healing options available. Sexological bodyworkers are one type of sex professional that many people don't know about. They are particularly help...
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Episode 26
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30:08
What Strings Are You Attaching To Sex?
This episode will walk you through the 5 main types of emotional strings we attach to sex that can really tank a couple’s fun together. I'll explain why this can be a hidden, but very common, reason for sexual avoidance. Then I’ll help you inve...
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Episode 25
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23:42
Flirting 101: Keys to Juicy Flirting for New & Long-Term Connections
Whether you’re partnered or not, flirting is such an important skill and one that most people don’t spend nearly enough time learning to do well. I sure didn't, but I was so excited to learn about how to flirt well. This episo...
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Episode 24
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28:48
You're Not Dysfunctional and Why Comparing Yourself To Others Isn’t Helping You
Most of us don’t talk openly and honestly about our relationship and sexual challenges. So it’s no wonder that we look around us at everyone else and assume they are having great sex and easy relationships. Today we're talking about how that mi...
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Episode 23
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19:56
When Reality is a Bummer: Dealing with Disappointment
Are you feeling disappointed about anything in your relationship or sex life?Disappointment in relationships and sex is super normal. Some disappointment is because the situation is really not working for us and we need to take some sort...
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Episode 22
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24:02
Relationship Skills Part 2: Attuning to Your Partner
Attuning well to your partner feels great for both of you. It enables emotional intimacy, which makes sexy time way better and much more likely to happen. It's also key for the special kind of non-verbal communication required in physical intim...
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Episode 21
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24:40
Exploring BDSM: Interview with Femme Domme Coach Rose
This episode is a must for anyone diving into or interested in dipping a toe into the world of BDSM. We cover everything from basic definitions: what is BDSM? How is it different from kink? What are the differences among Dom(mme)/Sub play, Sado...
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Episode 20
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